Do our best friends deserve our complete trust? Or do our wives or husbands deserve our full confidence? Is the quality of friendship or our sincerity in friendship rated by all the secrets we tell one another? Do we have a judge in this matter?
Alex and Jane, husband and wife, following the injunction in marriage “man and woman are one” hence they shared the same bank account. All was well until Alex noticed that the wife had emptied the account through uncontrolled withdrawals. In another case, it was the husband who was issuing more cheques for his fun.
Paul and his wife Mary kept no secrets. Mary knows how much Paul earns and how he spends the money. Later she noticed that Paul was not accounting for all the money on pay day yet he was not saving it. Maybe he is running a separate home, or having an affair.
Clara and Agnes are best friends, Clara confided in Agnes on how much she has in her bank account― awaiting a time to invest. Two weeks later Agnes requested a business loan from Clara, believing that Clara has the money which is free for the moment. Clara refused and the friendship is on the line.
Sandra confided in Andrew; her engaged lover, of her past life. During a storm between them, Andrew exposed the beans to the general public.
Celina told her bosom friend Cordelia that her husband gives her a certain amount as feeding money.
Cordelia confronted her own husband with this information because he earns more yet gives her less. The result was that Celina was banned from coming to visit Cordelia as the information was said to be a bad influence.
Raymond told his best friend Fredrick that he owns two plots of land somewhere. One day when Raymond was broke and needed a very little loan from Fredrick, Fred suggested he sold off his plot― a case of jealousy.
The list is endless. To what level do we need to believe and trust that privy information given out as a show of good friendship is not used detrimentally against us? This article is not anti-trust but advocates for the realization that some secrets still need to be kept between husband and wife and between so-called tight friends. Do you need to tell your friend that your husband is uncircumcised?
Do you need to tell your very best friend how you make your legitimate money? Supposing out of envy, they go to block it in order to laugh at you when you drain out! Do you need to tell your wife that in your last dream you slept with her best friend, her mother or sister?
Because you love your wife, do you need to tell her that you had in earlier times unknowingly slept with her roving cousin? Or tell your friend that her husband was your school days crush? Some secrets can guarantee the longevity of your marriage or your relationship, while some can break your family. Now decide, if you tell your wife how much you earn, she can’t ask for a private jet. On the contrary, her taste for materialism might be met with the idea that you are still rich yet stingy and she feels she deserves a better life elsewhere. So either way, you lose. Do you hide the fact that you had a baby earlier in your life and now someone wishes to take you to the altar? Do you have to tell everybody about your real age?