Most women have turned out to be like the proverbial Oliver Twist; I want, I need, my this or is finished, my that is bad, I don’t have this, give me that, it’s a long time I had those, if you love me buy me this, you did not send me that, you did not bring me that, I want, I need blah blah blah, I want more…”
This wimping scenario replays itself every time, every day, somewhere and everywhere. Women have developed a culture of asking and asking if not to call it demanding. They seem to never have enough. A feeling like “to want, is woman, to give, man.” Just as “to err is human, to forgive divine,” this hunger fuels their ambition to move on if a “debtor” male is not yielding; a strange culture of being female. Otherwise, women are not governed by the biblical injunction expression of Act 20:35. That “it is more blessed to give than to receive,” yet they are the majority in Churches and other places of worship. Or does giving by them diminish their ‘womanness’? Where is the origin of this mentality or tradition of self, self and more self? Is this act not becoming selfishness?
Some women would argue that they allow sex, hence they give a greater gift considering that men love sex. What people demand cannot be a gift. But sex is like a meal. You eat the food then you hunger again as you forget the taste. In the light of a gift becoming something to behold and to cherish, to remind you of a person, then sex cannot be a gift. Sex is like producing your passport, sharing information and putting it back into your pocket. Better still it is like shaking hands and going separate ways. Can’t a woman instinctively give her lover even a tuff of sweet or candy that she can severally afford while not talking of proper gifts from the heart; is that too much? Otherwise, if she does give, would that make the man or the world think she is self-sufficient to make him stop giving her presents? And is it wrong to be self-sufficient? Is it better to live a life of dependency because of a mere want or better still as a tradition? Would the cost of candy make a woman bankrupt?
This attitude of tightfistedness in women generally has gradually evolved but it does not make them balance the true equation of love because those who profess great love for some males are also deep into this belief that a woman that has or gives is less a woman or that she is only giving to beg a male to love her or that she is too forward, or that she is acting against feminine tradition? It is now culture.
True love manifests where there is giving and continuous giving irrespective of gender. The urge to give is more because the thing given out is like a bottled potion of the great love exploding in you. By giving, you want to show care. But if you want to be cared for, hence you expect to receive only, would that not make you look like you are frigid; loveless or even heartless? Why are women generally like that?
The fraction of women who even remember to send a birthday card to their boyfriend is so small that it is like the card could make most of them poor.
Begging as a culture made one man say: “women have phones but no airtime.” Is this attitude by the majority of women now so acceptable that the women do not see betrayal in being a continuous debt collector when you were never a creditor? Should women read the Bible more to know what true love means? Otherwise, when a woman professes love would she only be acting?
The call is for women to change but not to try to be like men in exhibiting the spirit of giving. The idea is for women to surpass men and be like angels in giving as in showing love in human nature.
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