When a woman asks for small money from the male, which is like a joke, an amount too small to look like an actual need, not like “I want to buy sweet” but “I want N20” or I want N50, such cannot equate for an accusation of her actually asking for needed money. Then such demand is a form of communication rather than a demand. It is like saying “asking for this creates an avenue for dialogue or conversation with a man she likes.”
When a man approaches a woman and she takes her time to respond and the man seems to retreat, she uses this “demand” or “disturbance” to get him back as a way to “chase” him this time around.
The method encourages the man in a way. He may quickly dig his hands into his pocket and hand over N200 instead of the N20 to make an impression since he feels that she is modest for her teasing demand of N20. When you assess her age, her status or class in terms of her well-being and she asks for a thrift, which in reality should not be an amount to bother her, you have the feeling that her asking is a joke. But she appears serious. The truth is that “asking” gives room for you to dialogue with her over the reality of her need. Otherwise, there would be no communication between the man and the woman.
When you give her the little she asks for she says thank you. Next time she asks for something even less. The male’s response gives her the feeling that the man cares since what she asks for is easily affordable. Then the request for money is an approach the female uses to communicate. It does not demean her as a beggar but the fact that she asks gives the male the feeling that she wants him to show care for her rather than see her as helpless.
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